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Moving On

9/9/2016

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What is your relationship with moving on?

Mine has seen drastic changes as I have journeyed on The Path of Self-Love. 
Past-me used to be a staunch believer in third and fourth chances. She used pushed herself to mend relationships, even when they were (what I now know to be) "toxic". In the past, she was driven not only to forgive, but also forget (or maybe the right word is DENY or EXCUSE). "Forget" didn't always include processing open communication, but rather a build up of inner monologue that finally found an outlet... somehow. "Forget" looked more like stifle. Stifle the memory of the trauma. Push it far into in the depth of my internal darkness. Bathe it in the shadows of self-doubts and ridicule-filled ruminations. Take as much blame as one can handle, and coat the rest in numbing salves. Check out. Binge. The sadness was too much. The loss was too hard. I could not kill the thing! I was strong enough to tame it. I was light enough to wake it up. I could see how cute it was when no one else was looking... that charming little inner child that talented capable adult they could be. The guilt of giving up on someone and the appearance of not loving them, or even worse - abandoning them - all too much to bear.

This statement below would have offended Past-me.
"Let me be clear. My love is unconditional. Your presence in my life is not."
I could not comprehend the idea, "The moment you prove, beyond a shadow of a doubt, your value of me does not equally measure or surpass my sense of self-worth, I will unconditionally love you from afar. I will move on." Move on? I would never.

If this sounds familiar, check yourself for TRAUMA BONDS


The relationships that surround me are a reflection of me, and I them. The current relationship dynamics in my life are more vibrant and positive and beautiful and instantly fulfilling than the majority of the relationships I held 15-20 years ago. And yet, I do have relationships that have lasted even longer. Some are a bit far removed from the surface, rather embedded in the foundation. There are the ones who lost touch because our parents moved, or we had to change schools, or the school district split at a certain grade level. In adulthood, they moved (or more likely, I moved) or a job took over their time. Eventually, our lives got immersed in something else and we simply got distracted and the train of friendship left the station without us.

We let go. It wasn't dramatic. It was gradual. It didn't involve creating the decision to let go...
our fingers just released. Our grasp left, but the heart still loves.

There is a peace that only comes in surrender.
There is a relaxation of our will to create friction,
to push forward,
to die trying.
In the way of saving ourselves from mortal harm,
I am all for this tenacity.
When it comes to holding on to toxic relationships,
that tenacity drives the poison faster to the blood stream.
Making the choice to move on is a purposeful surrender.
When you stop pushing,
when you relax into stillness,
when you realize you are not on a battlefront,
when you become aware of your breathing,
when you relax the muscles behind your eyes
you can stop projecting yourself into the future.
You can start creating awareness of the present moment.
You can gain clarity of your current conditions.
What is happening outside of my body?
What is happening inside of my body?
Where is my mind going? 
What flavor is my emotion? 
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Wetiko the Disease of the Ego

9/2/2016

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Ego behaves like a spoiled child, unless you lovingly discipline it. Eventually, you can talk with it reasonably and it throws a lot fewer tantrums. 

The ego is the protective mechanism hard-wired in our humanity. It is that ego which keeps us safe in this body and protects it from harm. It is a part of the "natural man" the instinctive choice to pull your hand from the scalding hot burner on the stove. Ego is the protective mechanism of the mind and the heart, too. Ego takes everything personally. When it screams, I try to listen. I want find out why it thought I needed protection. The conversation takes practice. Cultivating self-awareness is key. Sometimes apologies and actionable amends are necessary when the ego has run a muck. We owe Mother Earth many apologies and actionable amends.

We cannot kill the ego and succeed. We can teach it to warn us of danger. We can understand its role and honor it with supportive listening. We can be a loving mother to nurse our unhealthy ego to a state of balanced confidence, creating our healthy and humble self-esteem. We can have self-worth without being arrogant. We can celebrate our talents in unison with the talents of others. We are capable beings with infinite power of choice.

Ego is the default decision maker in many minds. We are encouraged to be prideful and tyrannical as a means of strength. If we are strong we are secure. Money is power. Generally, and definitely in agreement with this video, the ego being head hauncho in our lives leads us to dangerous, callous, greedy, and destructive behaviors. We live in a culture aimed at attacking our ego. We are to be fearful of losing everything at all times. We must be first, best, and busy being in control. All of that is illusion meant to divide us from the center intersection of our humanity and our divinity. We are led to find cynicism in anything or anyone who operates from a perspective of community, security, cooperation, generosity, and freely-given love. These mechanisms are used by Ego to gain power and manipulate. It is a vicious game of us vs them. The media plays us. The politicians play us. The celebrities play us. The corporations play us. We play us. 

And if I or you disagree with common hatred, we are a "them".  

Wetiko wins all wars.

In truth, we are never disconnected. In interconnected compassion we find each other as reflections. We appreciate each others perspectives as unique squares quilted into the tapestry of life. We see our personal purpose as service to the greater good. We have the capacity for greatness. True greatness. Epic greatness. Our technology is brilliant. Our resources are studied and calculated. We are capable of more than territorial wars and religious agendas. We are capable of peace on Earth, if it wasn't for that pesky Wetiko imbalance. 

We live in an unbalanced world. This world of ego that is in a state of Wetiko, the cannibalistic disease. We suffer from feelings of isolation and defeat, especially when we put forth efforts that are not reciprocated. We grasp for community. We lunge towards love whole-heartedly. We give of our time and money to supporting others. We foster security as we volunteer our cooperation. If any of these efforts are not well-received, it is natural to retreat into the Wetiko state of bitterness, separation, and greed. We cannot allow ourselves to stay there for very long. We must keep trying. We must keep being ourselves and healing the conditioning of this sickness. We must keep uniting. We must keep listening. We must keep loving. We must keep swimming. 

Together.

We who are compelled to shift this world must continue to shift within ourselves. Lovingly disciplining our own egos, or personal Wetiko dis-ease. These are the hardest and most important struggles we will ever face. To choose love. To choose trust. To give benefit of the doubt. To do these brave acts, we have to feel secure, balanced, and safe in our own body, mind, and heart - or the Wetiko will come back to teach us more lessons.  
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Cacao the Ceremonial Chocolate

8/19/2016

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​Ancient Wisdom Births
Modern Cacao Ceremony 

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Cacao comes to your life organically. From the beginning of its existence to the moment your lips meet, your journey is destined to cross its path. The properties of this sweet drink connect you with a fundamental aspect of yourself: Love. It is a heart opener, a feel-good transmitter, a sacred union. Cacao is literally the basis of a way of life for many modern families in Central and South America. Since ancient times, the gifts of chocolate origin figuratively serve as gesture of romance and love. Cacao is a sweet butter to the harsh taste of isolation, and for eons this plant medicine has been an inherent element of the indigenous peoples interconnections. They joined in community to celebrate their common bonds with each other and with the earth. Their bonds rooted in the experience of the divinity within the humanity, the eternal within the temporary, the pulse of the tribe in sync with every individual heartbeat.  

Cacao Ceremony Time Guide
6:30pm Arrive and find your space
7:00pm Call in the Directions
Cacao Ceremony with Guided Meditation
Drum and Dance

8:30pm Regroup and Reconnect
9:00pm Closing Circle  
Enjoy each other's company and food offerings.

10:30pm Good night, y'all.


Weather permitting, this will be an outdoor event set around the fire. 

What to bring:
• 2 litre bottle for drinking water and a personal mug for liquid cacao
• Paper plates etc will be provided, though we encourage you to bring your own plate and spork
• Wear soft, comfortable, layered clothing which allows you to move (leggings, soft trousers, etc)

• Meditation cushion, zafu, folding chair if sitting on the floor/ground is uncomfortable
• Pillow and blanket for comfort during inner journey work + resting (optional)
• Any significant personal item(s) that you’d like to place on the group altar (returnable!)


• Drums, flutes, rattles and shakers, and any other musical contribution you are willing to make to the evening


• A snack to contribute (vegetarian please and easy to serve)

• Your openness and willingness to connect authentically and honestly with your Self and the non-linear, spontaneous wisdom of the Cacao Deva.

Flavor Enhancements Include:
cayenne, cardamom, cinnamon, ginger, vanilla, raw honey, maple syrup, pink salt, coconut milk

We will provide some of these. If you want any in particular, please mention that in the comments.

To learn more about cacao and how to prepare yourself for the ceremony, read on:

During a sacred cacao ceremony, you will be invited to let go of what is not serving your life, to call in what you would like to manifest for personal growth, and to deeply open your full capacity for love. A cacao ceremony is an opportunity to connect to yourself and open your heart, literally and figuratively. Cacao aids in any transformational shift, whether you are looking to deepen your understanding of your unique purpose, release old patterns and past traumas, move into a more self-assured awareness, and awaken a sense of wonderment and joy. Whatever your path, the intention is yours to cultivate. The cacao enhances your intuitive insight and conscious awareness, thus moving you closer to your goals. Sound healing and meditation are tools we use to support your process. Together, we are committed to creating a kind atmosphere of sharing. We climax our experience with drumming and dance, during which the cacao activates within the body and the chakras, allowing a truly transformative and ecstatic process to unfold. Before we close the circle, we offer a chance to share anything that wants a voice through our experience. Then, we eat our shared meal, exchange contact information with new friends, and have ourselves a good night's rest.

The body-mind can become flooded with the many emotions stored in the heart, some of which can be painful. It is not always an easy experience. I have seen many tears shed as people peel away old layers of hurt. It is not only okay to cry, it is CELEBRATED. Tears are healing. A wise native once said, "The tears of the body are the blood of the earth." When you heal yourself, you give others permission to heal. When humanity heals, the earth heals. 
As the cacao facilitates a deep sense of self-love, tears are followed by smiles of deep gratitude. Flow with it. 

There is a two-week period following a fire ceremony in which “instances of opportunity” appear. These instances provide the opportunity to translate your intent for healing into reality. You are advised to think of the ceremony not as an instantaneous magical change, but rather an opening for healing distinctive habits and patterns. Recognize this opening and seize the opportunity to change your behavior in the real world. Let the universe take care of the details; listen for the signals and follow your inner guidance. 

Post-cacao residuals can be noticed a myriad of powerful and subtle ways. Enhanced dreaming, physical detoxification and purging, and random emotional releases, are some signs you are working through energetic blockages. It is possible to support this process by being kind with yourself. Nourishing the body through whole foods nutrition, meditation and rest, practicing embodied movement, spending time in nature and silence, bathing in Epsom salt, and receiving bodywork can be helpful tools to move through the discomfort. Very occasionally, there may be an experience of headache or nausea, which energetically is an indicator of resistance. For discomfort lasting more than a day, you are welcome to contact any of your facilitators for support.

Cacao was known as the food of the Gods by the ancient peoples of Mexico, Central, and South America. It was prized as being of more value than gold and was traded as currency. Kings used it to enhance their libido so they could satisfy their harems. In common practice, it was known to activate sources of love and energy within body and mind, leading to its aphrodisiac status. Signifying both life and fertility, it was ingested by royalty in ceremonial deity worship and in sacrificial ritual. This sought-after plant medicine has had it’s beneficial effects altered and diminished through cooking and processing with sugar and milk, turning it into what we know as "chocolate". When cacao is prepared in it’s raw form  and imbibed in sacred ceremony, we can experience the full benefit of this miraculous “Food of the Gods.” 

One of the main active ingredients is Theobromine. Theo-broma literally translates as God-Food, and potentiates the release of dopamine, the "pleasure hormone". This, alongside phenethylamine, which is known to help relieve stress and depression and is released in the body during emotional euphoria, creates a heightened sensation of connectivity and empathy. The high amount of nutrients in the cacao support detoxification of the liver, spleen, and kidneys. 

A quote from Drugs.com: “N-acylethanolamines are compounds found in chocolate that are structurally similar to anandamine, which is similar to the cannabinoid responsible for euphoria from cannabis. These compounds may not exert their effect by binding with the tetrahydrocannabinol receptors, but by inhibiting breakdown of endogenously produced anandamine, thus prolonging a “natural high.” 

You may feel it providing extra circulation to the body within 30 minutes of ingestion. As the brain receives more oxygen, you feel the buzz of its activity. Those with an empty stomach will notice a more rapid assimilation, so if you are ready for that level of medicine, eat a good sized lunch and fast for 6-8 hours before the ceremony. First-timers are encouraged to have a light vegetable-based snack around 3:30-4pm, or 2-3 hours before partaking. Noticeable effects of cacao typically last 4-5 hours. Costa Rican, or Central American, cacao has less caffeine than South American varieties. It is ideal for inner work, lucid dreaming, and shamanic journeys. Whereas the South American varieties are often used in a similar manner to the way North Americans use coffee. To be certain you get adequate sleep, drink more water than your usual habit. 

Please avoid all caffeine, alcohol, sugar stimulants, and bovine dairy products on the day, or at least 5 hours prior to event, as they do not mix well with cacao.

Health Concerns

The theobromine in cacao is diuretic. Again, drink as much water as you can manage. This will help you avoid physically induced headaches and nausea. Those who need dietetic detox, especially if undergoing chemotherapy, may become nauseous 5-6 hours after a large dose, as the bitters stimulate the liver. Lower doses may also be needed for people with lower body weight or those who regard themselves as sensitive to drugs or energies. Note:  many antidepressants do NOT mix with the tryptophan and MAO (Monoamine Oxidase) inhibitors in cacao. Research your medication before partaking. Cacao is a vasodilator, opening blood vessels, increasing their flow, and reducing blood pressure. If you get migraines from coffee, you may experience that effect from cacao, but it is not likely with the Costa Rican variety. A larger or full ceremonial amount of cacao combined with intense aerobic activity or a high-heat hot spring/ tub/ sweat/ sauna could make anyone nauseous. 

Although cacao is classed as a stimulant, many find they go deeper and quieter into meditation and contemplation with the help of cacao.  Same for most babies through the breastmilk. The variety we are using, lower in caffeine, is considered safe for pregnant women and for small children. The dosage should be based on their body weight.


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Seleka Behrs


Credit for content contribution to authors:
Annu Tara
Guinevere Short
Ananda Sarita


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Fat Girl in the Purple Shirt

8/16/2016

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I am the fat girl in the purple shirt.
The biggest girl in the room
The large lady and in charge 
With a waist big as a barge.
(and that's ok)

I am the fat girl in the purple shirt.
The biggest breasts in the room
The best hugs you ever had, 
So I guess they're not too bad.
(and hugs are free)

I am the fat girt in the purple shirt.
The biggest smile in the room
The warmest face to offer grace
Which creates healing space
(and that's my joy)

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Self within the self.

8/6/2016

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I believe in the power of big "S"elf-love that fuels the energy of little "s"elf-care. I know that bridge is where we meet God, the Great Spirit, the Universal truths and laws which govern an understanding that we chose love and free-will as cornerstones of our human value system. Within us all is the power to choose love and yield it like a valiant sword. ...but you have to learn to use a sword before you can safely yield it at all.

Gratitude for the present moment is the only way I am able to be sanely in the presence of love right now. Gratitude for my breath. Thankful for what my body CAN do. Grateful for the people in my life who won't allow me to forget how loved I am today, yesterday, and forever. Forgiveness for the others. Forgiveness for doubts within my small self. The biggest Self I have knows what needs to be done and has the patience and clarity to honor whatever that means. 
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